Well we have been doing lots of research with International Adoption and Ive gotten lots of information regarding Russian Adoption and the real costs of it from real people. Its really helped to see the real costs of things. I have also found a TON of blogs for Russian adoption and if anyone is interested please leave a comment with your email address and Ill be happy to email them your way.

Chad & I were talking the other day and he asked me the questions "do you think that God has led us to adoption because of your parents"? Thats a really good question because my parents are really against us adoption and I honestly have never figured it out. Is God trying to teach them that adoption is a beautiful thing that they should rejoice in? I dont know if God is using us to teach them that lesson in life or not but I cant wait to share in the joy of an adopted child. We always said we were going to adopt whether we had one of our own or not.

That being said my mom has just said some really hurtful things lately to me and I really honestly dont want to have anything to do with her. Dont know what she is going through but gosh she has been horrible and so has my dad. Is it bad that I dont want to be around my own parents? They have not ever been the most supportive parents and honestly now Im to a point I dont want to be around people that just bring me down. Adoption is an emotional process with lots of ups and downs and lots of patience and its really tough and my parents are just making it that much harder. They should be the ones to support us and encourage us but unfortunately I dont have those kind of parents.

On the flip side Chads family is truly wonderful and calls all the time to see if we have heard anything. They pray for us each and every day and its just amazing the difference between two families.

On to other things-Friday will be a big day
I go in for my ultrasound Friday morning to see how many follicles and possibly get a HCG shot if things look good.
Then we got the call that we are going to meet with Bethany on Friday afternoon I cant wait! Our pastor (who is on the board) called and got us in..yeah!

On a final note our church puts out a newsletter each week and the verse this week was so perfect. Such a great reminder...
"Do not worry about anything, instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need and thank Him for all He has done." Philippians 4:6

8 comments:

G & H said...

Chad & I were talking the other day and he asked me the questions "do you think that God has led us to adoption because of your parents"? Thats a really good question because my parents are really against us adoption and I honestly have never figured it out. Is God trying to teach them that adoption is a beautiful thing that they should rejoice in? I dont know if God is using us to teach them that lesson in life or not but I cant wait to share in the joy of an adopted child. We always said we were going to adopt whether we had one of our own or not.

I could have wrote that too! I often feel like God entrusted us to be a living example of HIM to my family. My dad is the only christian in my family everyone else is either like indifferent towards God or only believes when God is doing something nice. It's weird to feel like I have this position to be a light to my family and its really BIG shoes to fill BUT I am excited to be that person. I tell my husband I want everything in our adoption to be a GOD THING. So that everyone in my family can see GOD in every step...I think in some way we will be a miracle situation that we can use to witness to my family and others!!!

Ashley said...

I"m sorry that your parents are doing that to you!! Lean on your DH's parents as much as you can! GOOD LUCK WITH THE FOLLICLE COUNT!! ((HUGS))

Onna said...

I love that verse that was in your newsletter. It's so wonderful and something I'm going to print and hang.

I'm sorry about the things your Mom has said. Sometimes people say mean things when they don't understand everything completely.

Good luck at your u/s and YAY for the meeting with Bethany!

Misty said...

I am so so sooooooooooooooo completely jealous that you got in with Bethany. So they are going to have a private informational meeting with just you guys? Give me details. I want in!

twondra said...

I'm so sorry your parents are having issues! I feel so bad for you. I guess in my opinion, if you really want to clear the air, I would ask them what their issues are, but in a nice way. I hope things get worked out. ((HUGS))

Amber said...

Misty-we are meeting regarding domestic adoption. Im really not sure what all we are going to discuss but its one of the ladies that is over Bethany in Jackson. Our pastor just asked her to meet with us so I called and that was the date that worked out for both of us.

They are having a informational meeting regarding international adoption on July 28 at 4 pm here if you are interested. That is open to anyone.

beth ewing said...

i'm so sorry your family isn't supporting you. this is such a hard process and you need all the help and support you can get.

Tina said...

Sometimes when people don't understand something they react in ways that seem to be incomprehensible. It is the fear of the unknown.

When we first went through my ectopic, my mom could not understand the emotional effect on me. She actually told me that I needed to talk to a professional. After she talked to people who had been through m/c and ectopics she began to realize that what I was going through was normal. Sometimes people need to be informed to be able to accept.

If I was in your shoes, I would call my parents and tell them that I wanted to talk to them about adoption and the process. Could you meet with your parents and pastor to help?

I just feel that your parents probably want to a part of this, they maybe just scared. Do they know your struggles to get pregnant?

I hope this all works out for you and your family.