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Showing posts with label Birthmother. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Birthmother. Show all posts
Yes it is certain it is TWINS. I have had more emails, comments, text messages,phone calls from friends, family, people I dont even know with congrats, we are praying for you and just questions.
Im honestly just in awe of what God has put in our path for adoption. Never in my dreams would I be thinking that our journey to adoption would be TWINS (I keep saying this over and over in my mind I just cant believe it). I feel like we are living in this dream world and that Im going to wake up from this dream. I know that God lead us to this situation and it was in his plan. God made us experience more sadness and depression than I would wish on my worst enemy but he knew that we had to experience it so that when our perfect match came along we would be so over the moon excited and it would be that much more special!
So all the details that everyone is waiting for...
Yesterday Chad was overtalking to a distance co-worker that worked in the main office of the district. Well it came up that we were adopting and she said that her sister had just been contacted about a possible situation but she wasnt interested because they just couldnt afford it. Her sister and family were trying to find a match and she pretty much knew that whoever they recommended she would chose.
Well co-worker's mom calls BM and says she is very interested and wanted our number to talk to us. Well Chad talked to her, we talked to her several times. She said to us she wanted us to have her babies (still cant get it out of my head..not one but two!) as long as we dont homeschool them (of course we are both work in public school that are very good).
Then one thing lead to another and we were talking attorney so she could have peace of mind about us not leaving her (oh if she only knew 1000%+) but she wanted a guarantee. We are in the process of getting everything signed and all legalities now with everything.
Quick details:
-Birthmother is due April 7-8, 2010 so she is about 8 wks along
-she lives 3 hrs from us
-she is 17 yrs old
-doesnt have much to do with parents, especially mother. She found out recently that her dad has been diagnosed with cancer and has been given a year to live.
-she will be 18 Nov. 26
-TWINS!
-this is her SECOND, yes SECOND set of twins, first was at the age of 15
-first set were two girls
-birthfather wants to have nothing to do with the babies, he moved to CA and has given her all rights (different father from the 1st set)
-found an attorney and we are in the process of drawing up a contract and getting lots of legal help
-she wants 100% private adoption with pictures occasionally of the children
-will meet with her in the next week or so, probably will be through the week since she works most weekends and we will hopefully have all contracts drawn up
-she lives 3 hrs from us
-she is 17 yrs old
-doesnt have much to do with parents, especially mother. She found out recently that her dad has been diagnosed with cancer and has been given a year to live.
-she will be 18 Nov. 26
-TWINS!
-this is her SECOND, yes SECOND set of twins, first was at the age of 15
-first set were two girls
-birthfather wants to have nothing to do with the babies, he moved to CA and has given her all rights (different father from the 1st set)
-found an attorney and we are in the process of drawing up a contract and getting lots of legal help
-she wants 100% private adoption with pictures occasionally of the children
-will meet with her in the next week or so, probably will be through the week since she works most weekends and we will hopefully have all contracts drawn up
-she has an ultrasound on Thursday and has invited us to come along, not sure if we will or not.
-found out that you can legally in MS have a contract before the birth but she can of course still change her mind up until 10 days after birth
-my parents who if you remember didnt like the idea of our adoption have somehow now turned to the really excited cant wait stage. My mom has asked so many times already so when do we get to go shopping. Never did I
-found out that you can legally in MS have a contract before the birth but she can of course still change her mind up until 10 days after birth
-my parents who if you remember didnt like the idea of our adoption have somehow now turned to the really excited cant wait stage. My mom has asked so many times already so when do we get to go shopping. Never did I
think I would hear that from my mom quite frankly.
-we will not do anything nurserywise until we find out what it is (about 8-10 weeks)
-she has spoken with her father about things and he is supportive of it
-she has spoken with her father about things and he is supportive of it
-timing could not be any more perfect-I can take the remainder of the year off (6-8 wks depending on when they are born) and then the rest of the summer. Then we will probably do half daycare/half parents which they would be around 4 mths old.
A great verse to carry us through this long 7 mths. I know that God led us to this mother for a reason, it was not an accident by any means. If its in his will it will work out2 Chronicles 20:15
Thus says the LORD to you, 'Do not be afraid and do not be dismayed at this great horde, for the battle is not yours but Gods.
Thus says the LORD to you, 'Do not be afraid and do not be dismayed at this great horde, for the battle is not yours but Gods.
Labels: Adoption, Birthmother, Twins
Just a little update on BM 2
We talked to her a few times on Friday and we asked for US pics and all the sudden contact stopped. We really dont know what happened quite frankly but she contacted 5 other couples and none have heard back from her since Friday. Im kind of putting it behind me and saying this one is over with.
Today has been a great day with church and lots of church friends. Our pastor had a great sermon and we had a wonderful Sunday School service as well. We were challenged to spend more time in the word and in prayer. Its something Ive really been trying to do more. Its definitely a tough thing to do when you seem so busy but I know that with this time that it will help me to be closer to God. It really has shown me why we go to the church we go to and it makes me feel very blessed for so many wonderful people to be praying for us during this time.
I feel like Ive already been on a emotional rollercoaster and Ive just started the process. I know it will all be worth it in the long run but right now its so hard not to get so excited over any contact. I know one of these contacts will work out for us when God sends us the perfect BM.
Labels: Birthmother
We got another contact from a birthmother who is 4 mths along! This is all so interesting and exciting!
A little more info:
- BM is up north (not within driving distance at all)
- She has 2 due dates (Feb. 8 & Feb. 11) and of course my bday is Feb. 11:)
- she wants to be a secondary teacher like me:)
- its a boy
Labels: Birthmother
Before I start out I just have this sense of frustration. So we emailed a few times with the birth family and then it was like as soon as we said we were not non-denomination she wanted to have nothing to do with us. I was pretty sure we would have contacts some of which didnt work out but never in a million years did I think it would be over religion. She pretty much said she was looking for someone that was non-denomination.
I will learn to accept it and know that God has another situation waiting for us but its just disheartening to hear that the reason you wont get picked is because of your religion which is Presbyterian (PCA) and not non-denomination.
We havent heard from the family all day today and I doubt we will. I just pray for God to show us the perfect situation and the perfect family in Gods perfect timing.
Labels: Adoption, Birthmother
Well today marks our first contact we have had with a birthmother family. The birthmom is due in Spring of next year. We are still learning about the situation and there is still lots we dont know at this point and time.
If you could please say a little prayer for us that if this is Gods will then it will happen and if not then he will show us the perfect situation in his timing and not allow us to get too attached to the situation.
Labels: Adoption, Birthmother
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