Home Study Complete!

Well a quick run down on the home study... which I must admit was a major disappointment...

Yesterday our SW was supposed to be here at 2 pm, well she showed up about 10 minutes late, then when she got here she forgot all the paperwork to ask us. I dont understand how you cant be prepared for this?? So 45 minutes later (close to 3 pm) we finally got started.

She sat down we got to chatting and then she asked us questions for 2.5 hrs. I was to the point of boredom or more like beyond. Some of the questions she asked us we had already filled out in our packets and some questions were asked 2 or 3X just in a different way. After 2.5 hrs of questioning she obviously thought it was time to wrap up so she left the last 4-5 pages with us to fill out. I really dont get this at all. If she was going to leave us with the paperwork then why could we not have filled it all out?? She took the paperwork she asked us and wouldnt let us see our answers to it.

After the questioning she toured the home which was literally about a 2-3 minute quick tour of the house. She looked into each of the rooms and that was it. She never even opened closets or anything. All that cleaning...

The biggest disappointment more so than everything else is she knew NOTHING about adoption, just fostering. How did we get a SW who doesnt know anything about adoption?? I just dont understand at all. We kept asking questions and then she told us we could contact the adoption hotline if we wanted any answers to our question. Yeah thanks what was the point in you coming seriously?? Then the other thing was she kept pushing us towards fostering. After her asking us many times are we sure we didnt want to foster we both had to be kind of stern with her. No lady we dont want to foster cant you get that through your brain or what??!!

After all of it well see what happens from here she doesnt think we will have any issues getting approved we know have to be approved through the state to get the home study approved. Then our next step is to get fingerprinted which will either be tomorrow or Friday (waiting to hear back) or when we return from DC next week.

I honestly dont know if we will adopt through the state or not after dealing with not 1 but 2 incompetent SW it just seems like they cant hire people who are. Its very frustrating and dealing with outside people with things such as the CPR the one lady asked me how we have dealt with them it is that bad. How do people get jobs especially caring for innocent children?? I just dont get it.
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In other news, last night we went to Chads softball game and he was pitching and got knocked out by a line drive. He has a huge, huge bruise which is the shape of the softball and it hit him so hard you could actually see the seam of the softball where it hit him. Poor thing is in a lot of pain for sure.

Then also while we were at the softball game I was talking to one of the wives of another softball player who we are good friends with and her sister has adopted one little boy and is trying to adopt their 2nd child. I asked who they are going through and who they went with for the 1st child and she said Journey of the Heart They adopted their little boy from Taiwan and he is precious! The cost is about 25-30k though which is a bit high or compared to Bethany I guess.

We are heading out with some friends tonight they wanted to know more about our adoption story so should be fun!

8 comments:

Tina said...

Sounds frustrating, but it seems like y'all are doing everything and heading in the right direction!

Hope you get some answers soon

Jen said...

well that stinks! but at least the process is still rollin' along! i hope you hear back before you leave for DC!

Rosie said...

Man! What a crappy experience! I'm sorry you both had to go through that! I personally would switch agencies.(if you can even do that). Also, I hopw Chad heals well! I know the feeling of getting socked by a softball & it's not so great!

G & H said...

Thats kinda a bummer about the H.S.! I thought they would be like so crazy intense and over the top but seemed this lady barely cared! Well I guess good thing its over!

Poor thing getting hit by the softball like that :( Scary glad all in all he's ok!

Megan said...

Man, that kinda sucks! Why would they give you a SW that deals with fostering when you're trying to adopt? You'd think they'd match you better than that. Frustrating! Well, I hope that everything works out more smoothly for you here on out.

Kelli said...

Ugh! I would have pulled out my hair! So sorry you had to deal with a SW who obviously didn't have a clue...

twondra said...

Dang! You have more patience than I would have. :) Glad it's over, but man, how frustrating!!

Onna said...

I hate that you had such a terrible experience with your Home study. It stinks to look foward to something so much, prepare for the hilt for it and then be so let down. And the fact that she was so unknowledgable about everything - crazy!
Poor Chad, I hope he's alright today!
Have a great weekend sweetie!