Heartbroken....

Well we found out this morning that the birthmother miscarried...
Our hopes, our dreams of kids..just shattered to the ground.

I dont understand why God would let this situation come along only to be let right down. I dont know what we will do next...maybe we just arent meant to have kids.....

27 comments:

Crystal said...

Please don't stop trying and don't give up hope. I don't know you but I do know our Lord and I know that "if he brings you to it, he will bring you through it." When you think there is no more hope and you have no more choices, he will open the doors and show you the way. There is a baby that he is making very special just for you. My best friends just left today to pick up their son they have adopted in Ethiopa. I'm sorry for the sad news. My prayers are with you and your husband.

Jill said...

Amber I agree don't feel that way at all. I am so sadden to hear the birth mom had a miscarriage. I believe in my heart there is a baby or babies out there for you and chad. Thinking of you.

Mandy Jo said...

Please don't give up, please don't stop believing..you and your husband are in our prayers thur this hard time in your life.

Ashley said...

I'm so sorry!! ((HUGS))

Kathryn and Kevin said...

I am so sorry!!! Do not give up your dreams. It will happen and although it doesn't make any sense now. You will understand once you havethat child(ren) that was totally made for your family. After all the adversity, we've had in this long process, it's difficult to remember the child for you is out there; remember the Disney song, Somewhere Out There from An American Tail, well your little one is somewhere out there; as well as ours is. He or she is just not ready yet. But do not give up; it will happen!!!

I read somewhere that on average, the couple or family that goes the domestic adoption route, has 2 or 3 failed adoption encounters, before they have the child they were meant to have.

G & H said...

No you are meant to have kids! MOst definitely God will make you a mommy one day!!!! I hate those words one day though I Hear them alot myself!

God has big plans in store for you AMBER HUGE PLANS! I am so sorry though for you loss....Please know we are thinking and praying for you!!!!

I gotta email you back cuz I have lots to say regarding the emails and I possibly have a suggestion for you

Kathryn said...

I'm so sorry to hear this news, but I know that God has a plan for you.

Maybe this outcome was not about you, but rather about the birth mother.

Please don't make it your decision to give up -- rather, please pray so that the decision will be His.

Kat

Kelli said...

I'm so sorry, Amber. I've had those same thoughts before, but we have to keep believing. God has placed that desire in your heart because he knows that you will be a great mom one day. Hang in there, hun.

Caroline said...

Amber, I am so sorry to hear this awful news. I can only imagine how devastated and heartbroken you are feeling right now.
I totally agree with the other comments. I believe that you will be a wonderful mother, and you are developing such strength and dedication right now.
We are here for you. Hang in there. Hugs. xx

Onna said...

Amber I am so sorry to hear this news. I'm with everyone else. Don't give up. I know it's hard not to just give all of it up but God does have a plan. Many hugs sweetie. I'm so sorry you have to go through this!

Hillary said...

I am so very sorry, Amber. That is heartbreaking.

Sarah'sSmile said...

He has a plan. The babies may not have been healthy, He didn't want them to have to suffer. Miscarriages stink...let me tell you personally.

Be patient and put it in His hands!

Amanda said...

Oh Amber, I am so, so sorry! Don't ever say you aren't meant to be a mother!!!! It is so hard to believe at this moment that God has a plan. But, there is a perfect child for you. Be strong, trust Him. It was so hard for me after 4 miscarrages of my own and of course our adoption fiasco. But Reagan is our miracle. All the hurt & pain just melts away. I promise it will get better. Please don't give up!!!!!

RB said...

Oh Amber, I am so terribly sorry. This news is devastating. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband at this difficult time.

Jen said...

i am so very sorry. what a blow :( you ARE meant to have kids. the Lord knows that you can handle this b/c you have Him to lean on. He will bring you the right child for you. it's okay to grieve. please don't give up hope!

Jessica said...

I am so sorry - you are in my thoughts and prayers. Please don't give up on your dream - I honestly believe that it will happen for all of us that want it so badly. I pray that you find comfort.

Joy said...

Amber,
You are in my thoughts and prayers. I know this is heartbreaking. I still can not help but feel that Motherhood is so close for you. It is a feeling that I can not shake, nor do I want to shake. Some thing (or should I dare say one) keeps drawing my thoughts and prayers back to you.
Joy

Christy said...

I am so sorry to hear about this. Don't give up.

Mrz. Hannah Myhre said...

Amber I'm so sorry. I don't know why this happened, BUT I do Believe with all my heart that- YOU ARE MENT TO BE A MOTHER!!!

This is a hard thing.. and you'll need to grieve the loss of what might of been. And thats NORMAL!!! Don't let anyone tell you it isn't!!!

I'm praying for you and chad. Your baby/babies are out there. Don't give up sweetie.

Hugs,
Hannah

Stuart and Sarah Creamer said...

I am so sorry to hear about this. I know that it doesn't help, doesn't seem to get easier, everything keeps failing- but you must keep your eyes on Him. That is the only thing that will carry you through! Love and Hugs!

Anonymous said...

HUGE Hugs! (((())))))
:-(
Laurie, In Cali

sarah m said...

Amber, I am SO sorry to hear this. This is such a difficult journey, so be sure to cling to the same promises from God that brought you to the happiness of this match. It is difficult to understand why things happen the way they do. Something someone very special to me always reminds me of is, "Either we trust God in everything, or we trust Him in nothing." He is the God who gives and takes away, but He is still pretty awesome. Hang in there - you ARE meant to be a mom, and it will happen. :)

Allison said...

Oh no, I am so sorry--both for you and for the twins' first mother. How tragic. :(

Hoping for a Miracle~~ said...

Amber, I am so sorry for you and the expecting mom. This truely is a difficult journey and God will not give us more than we can handle, although we may not understand it at the time, know he does have the perfect plan for each of us and one day it will all make sense. You are an incredibly strong woman and are meant to be a mom!!! Believe in yourself as God believes in you, he will carry you through this. I pray for you and your husband to find peace in your hearts and strength to move forward.

Chrissy said...

I'm so sorry. :( Many prayers for you and Chad, the birthmother, and those sweet angels.

Mimi said...

DO NOT GIVE UP!!! This is a test of faith and your love in God will not hinder. He will not forsaken you honey. Trust in him. Things happen for a reason. Get back up and try again! It will happen!!

Love,
Kami

Stacey said...

Amber,
I'm late reading this, but I'm SO sorry. Please know you're all in my prayers.